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Single Not By Choice?

Single Not By Choice?

There’s an overriding human need to want to pair with others. In fact, our society reveres doing so. But when you’re single. Well, you’re single. Even the term single sounds so cut off, doesn’t it?

If you’ve found yourself at this juncture in your life alone, or even if you are with someone but still feeling alone, remember this: There is no Me in He or She.

Man walking on highway alone.

What does this mean? This means that your Soul Ascension, your Soul Path, was meant to be trod on by one person and one person only. And that is you. Therefore, yes, there truly is no me in he or she. 

Does that mean that pairing and wanting to pair or being paired is a “bad” thing. If you’ve followed my teachings/writings for any length of time, you know that I generally don’t teach that there is anything “bad.” In essence, there is only things that are. 

Why Am I Single?

As a reminder, we came to this physical plane, this EarthPlane realm, to live a human existence. At the same time, we came here to learn lessons that only the EarthPlane can teach us. That being said, the lesson of being “single” and being okay and better than okay with that single status is one of those lessons.

For here is the “thing,” as they say. There is no me in she or he. You may be tied to another; may enjoy another’s company; but in the end you leave alone as you came here alone. And in essence you truly are alone.

I don’t mean this to sound like a “downer.” In fact, once you embrace this knowing and feel it to your core and know that it is what you’ve been seeking all along, you will feel a freedom like you have never felt before. 

Little girl with lantern in woods.

Isn’t it interesting that we know this lesson intrinsically as children. Before we are told that there “should” be a we for us to be “whole,” we happily skip along our path, gleeful in the knowing that there is something new around every corner.
 

This is not to say that there can’t or won’t be others in your life with whom you shall “come together.” In fact, you most likely planned and are experiencing or will experience such unions. And they can be quite glorious unions!

It only means that if you are experiencing what many see as single not by choice, that you are learning what you had wanted to learn from the experience—that there is no me in he or she.

The lessons you learn, the paths you traverse, the mountains you climb and the breathtaking views you gaze upon are all experienced and savored with YOUR legs, YOUR limbs, YOUR eyes and YOUR mind on YOUR unique Soul journey to you! 

Man standing on stone in water-purple sunrise

Julie Bawden-Davis

Julie Bawden-Davis is a bestselling journalist, blogger, speaker and novelist. Widely published, she has written 25 books and more than 4,000 articles for a wide variety of national and international publications. For many years, Julie was a columnist with the Los Angeles Times, the San Francisco Chronicle and Parade.com. In nonfiction, Julie specializes in home and garden, small business, personal finance, food, health and fitness, inspirational profiles and memoirs. She is founder and publisher of HealthyHouseplants.com and the YouTube channel Healthy Houseplants. Julie is also a prolific novelist who has penned two fiction series.

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